A Jewelry Box, a Brother's Love, a Revelation

I met Ginny Minniger several years ago at a Chattanooga Writers Guild event. As we chatted that night, she remarked, "I don't write much." Later that evening, I had the pleasure of hearing her read some of her writing. My mouth fell open. I commented, "You don't write much? Wow. You should."

Ginny Minniger's keepsake story won second place in the most recent keepsake story contest. She wrote about a small jewelry box.

Ginny Minniger's keepsake story won second place in the most recent keepsake story contest. She wrote about a small jewelry box.

She entered "Love is Given" in my contest. I loved it when I read it, and the judges did, too. One of the judges said, "Several passages appealed to me, but I really like the ending thought of this one: 'It has represented what I knew to be true—love is a given in families. When I open one of the little drawers to retrieve a ring or small trinket, it’s like opening a secret panel to my heart.'"

Another judge praised Ginny's honesty. "Not all families are like the perfect families depicted in Norman Rockwell's paintings, soap operas, or Hallmark movies," one of the male judges said. "Love is demonstrated in more than words and hugs and perfect Christmases and birthdays. Some families don't know how to show love, but most of the time, it is there."

Ginny's story ranked second among the keepsake stories in the contest, and I mailed her a writer's journal earlier this week. I hope it will inspire her to write more. Here's her story.

We weren’t a warm and loving family, the five of us who shared space under one roof. The baggage my parents brought to their relationship overshadowed the potential for that.

I was the middle child with a brother five years older and a sister five years younger. Melding us as siblings would have taken skills my mother just didn’t have to give. She was still working through her own traumatic childhood when she assumed the roll of raising children. At times, I felt more like the adult than the dependent.

Interaction was limited. There were no family game nights, no good-natured teasing, no excited anticipation of Christmas morning. My mother was a realist. If there were gifts under the tree she wanted us to know that she was responsible for getting them there—not some strange man in a red suit who let himself into our house while we all slept.

As providers, my parents did their best to clothe and feed us. The population of our small, Mid-western town was mostly middle class. We may have been poor, but most of our neighbors lived similarly. There was no obvious keeping up with the Jones’ in Griffith, Indiana. It was only in adulthood that I realized how much stress must have been put upon Mom and Dad to stretch the modest income their small business generated.

Although I had observed behavior in my friend’s families that was different from ours and found myself envious of the hugs and encouragement they shared, I trusted that my parents and siblings loved me. We were a family! Love is a given in families, I reasoned. Still I longed to have tangible proof of that love.

My brother’s Senior Class Trip to Washington, D.C., and New York City, would provide that proof for me.

How exciting it was to observe him preparing and packing for the trip! We’d never taken a family vacation. My travel experience was limited to spending a week each summer with my grandmother who lived less than 20 miles away in a tiny retirement cottage. The train to D. C. was going to return him home in a week. I couldn’t wait to see him and pry from him every detail of the experience.

When he returned and unzipped his satchel to unpack, I was totally unprepared to receive a gift. He’d carefully selected and spent his hard-earned vacation money on a remembrance of his adventure for each of us. I was over-the-top thrilled to open the tiny, wooden jewelry box he’d chosen for me.

“He does love me!” I celebrated silently.

My keepsake from Jim still claims a place in plain sight on my dresser. For more than seven decades, it’s black lacquer finish a little cracked and chipped, it has represented what I knew to be true—love is a given in families. When I open one of the little drawers to retrieve a ring or small trinket, it’s like opening a secret panel to my heart.

We weren’t a warm and loving family, the five of us who shared a house. Still, once in awhile something spilled through the cracks that revealed deep caring and that something became a treasure.
— Ginny Minniger, 2014
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To read other stories about keepsakes and the memories they hold, please purchase a copy of Project Keepsake. It's on sale now with no shipping and handling charges. And by the way, it's a great Christmas gift for a loved one, especially when paired with a keepsake.

And as always, I know you have a keepsake. Please share your keepsake story with me. Everyone has a keepsake, and every keepsake has a story to tell.

The Eastman Chemical Tank Car

I browsed various Tumblr blog posts this morning and paused to read through a list of thought-provoking questions.

Paul Garrison's story about a model train car is part of Project Keepsake. 

Paul Garrison's story about a model train car is part of Project Keepsake. 

147. Mars for Snickers? 
Definitely Snickers, I thought.
148. What's your favorite quote?
Thoreau's "In wildness is the preservation of the world," popped into my mind.
149. Do you believe in ghosts?
Maybe.
150. Get the closest book next to you, open it to page 42, what's the first line on that page?

I grabbed my copy of Project Keepsake, flipped to page 42, and instantly recognized the story as Paul Garrison's "The Eastman Chemical Tank Car,"  a hauntingly beautiful story chronicling the life of an adopted son as he faces the death of his parents and searches for some type of resolution to the events of his life. 

I know Garrison, and he doesn't consider himself a writer, yet his story is one of the most powerful stories in the collection. It stars a cast of real people I knew long ago, living tragic, tormented lives—divorce, sudden death, neglect, psychological abuse, dementia, grief. I wept the first time I read it. 

At the core of the story is a young boy's innocence, imagination, and his love of train sets—a simple and almost universal concept.

The trains were not really my toy trains—they were my father’s. The train set came out only once a year, for about a month around Christmas. My father, Lawrence Garrison, pulled out the boxes and assembled all the pieces into electromechanical magnificence.
— Paul Garrison from Project Keepsake

Just like the other stories in the book, Garrison's story isn't really about his keepsake. His model train car holds thousands of memories. He condensed the memories and emotions down and penned the story. Here's another excerpt from the book. 

Each new day brought new tracks and new destinations. Uncle Georgy provided for me and Georgia, making sure we had life’s necessities and doing his best to make us decent, well-adjusted people. We eventually called him ‘Dad,’ and he became our dad, though to him, I was still, ‘Snot.’

Over the next thirty-six years, I experienced mostly great fortune. I did not get drafted into war. I graduated from Georgia Tech, met my beautiful wife, Annie, and found excellent work. Annie and I travelled the world and participated in the Internet boom. I lived a life most would envy.

Then in 2009, Uncle Georgy’s—Dad’s—health declined dramatically. He developed what he called a serious case of the don’t give a shits. For years, he had been the main caregiver for my mother, who lived with dementia and stayed in bed all day, every day. He lost a lot of weight and was not too concerned about any of it.

He died in May that year. I had seen it coming and was as prepared as I could be. I told my mom, but she never fully digested the news. Georgia and I found a funeral home and scheduled the cremation, just as Dad requested. He had asked us to plan the least expensive funeral possible, and we obliged. We bought an inexpensive, marble urn for his ashes.
— Paul Garrison from Project Keepsake
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Garrison's story reminds us that like a train, life barrels down its course taking different tracks as directed by some grand engineer. We can't stop it. Some of the changes are welcome, while others are not. 

Do you have a keepsake? Where did it come from? Why is it special? Share the story.

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Black Swank Trifold

Since Project Keepsake was published in February, several men readers have remarked, “I don’t have keepsakes—that’s kind of a ‘woman’ thing.”

Au contraire! Twelve of the fifty-five keepsake stories in the first collection were penned by men. My husband, Gene, has a few keepsakes he stores in a Lundstrum stacking mission-style lawyers' bookcase in his office. My brother, Andy, has one keepsake that I know of, and if I plundered around his house, I bet I could find more. Yes, men have keepsakes.  They may not talk about them a lot, but men keep things.

So today, I cast a light on a man’s keepsake and keepsake story.

Ed's story is about a wallet and the kindness of a stranger. "Black Swank Wallet" begins on page 252.

Ed's story is about a wallet and the kindness of a stranger. "Black Swank Wallet" begins on page 252.

I first heard Ed Huey tell his keepsake story while at a gathering at Jane Starner’s riverside condo just north of Chattanooga. He delivered a short summary while I ate salad and sipped wine. Ed’s keepsake is a wallet that belonged to his father. His story tells the tale of a broken family, a son’s sadness, and the kindness of a stranger. 

“Oh wow! You’ve got to write that story down,” I said afterwards.

But Ed’s a busy guy—he’s a thriving blues musician with dozens of irons in the fire all the time. He teaches music. He plays music. He’s recorded songs and documented conversations with Mississippi blues greats. He even played the part of a dead body in an independent film a few years back—a performance worthy of an Academy Award, I might add. Plus, he and his beautiful and multitalented wife, Sharon Huey, had recently moved to Natchitoches, Louisiana, so I didn’t think that Ed would ever be able to carve out the time to write his story down on paper for me, or for anyone else. But I was wrong.

When Ed learned that I needed one more story for the book, he sat down and wrote “Black Swank Trifold” and sent it to me with a lovely note.

I am a rather stoic gal—a hard-as-nails, female Mr. Spock, of sorts. I rarely show emotion unless someone is sick or dead or I have been pushed to an extreme limit, but Ed’s kindness and his story evoke strong emotions in me.

His story begins on page 252 of Project Keepsake. Enjoy!

My father died of a heart attack at a traffic light in Monroe, Louisiana. His divorce from my mother and marriage to his third wife caused a bitter rift in the family that was never repaired. My sister and I were never offered any of his belongings after his death.

When the phone rang the caller asked, “Is this Mr. Lynn E. Huey, Jr.?”

I said to myself, “Telemarketer, what do you want? How did you get my number? And why are you calling me?” I went into defense mode.

“Are you Lynn Huey? Please don’t hang up, I have something that belongs to you.”

I was angry now, the gall!

“My name is Michael. I found your father’s wallet. I’ve been contacting all the Lynn Hueys I could find. When I found Lynn Huey, Jr., I had a feeling.”

Michael said he was in Melbourne, Florida browsing an antique toy store and saw a wallet on a shelf for $10. Strange offering for a toy store. He opened it and found identification, family pictures, membership cards, even a voter registration card for Lynn E. Huey. He thought it very curious that an intact billfold was in a location so remote from the address listed on the driver’s license, Bossier City, Louisiana, but he replaced it on the shelf and left the store.

As he reached the sidewalk, Michael kept thinking about the billfold. He couldn’t let it go. That billfold belonged to someone. He went back and purchased the item. There must be some way to restore it to the Huey family, he thought. Now he had finally called the right Lynn Huey.

Memories flooded my senses. I was speechless for several seconds. When I found the words, I told Michael I did not have anything that belonged to my father. The next few seconds Michael was silent. Then, in an choked-up voice, he said, “Well, Mr. Huey, I have something very special for you, today. Something that belonged to your father.”

He told me about the items in the billfold, a picture of my son, an appointment card for the cardiologist and other things that verified that this was in fact my father’s billfold.

When Michael mailed the parcel, he related the story to the UPS store manager. UPS insisted on participating in the restoration of the billfold to the Huey family as a gift. The package was sent at no charge.

The swank, genuine cowhide, trifold, black billfold with the accordion card windows arrived. All available card windows were occupied with his current driver’s license, employment photo ID, Masonic Lodge card, golf club membership, bank ID, family pictures of his mother, current wife, me, grand sons, assorted reminders for medical appointments. All up to date for 1974. I was looking directly into Lynn Edmond Huey’s face, a moment rescued from 1974. I had not seen him or any of his belongings since October 1974. Michael M. walked into an antique toy store in Melbourne, Florida in October 2010, saw this object on a shelf, purchased it, and sent it to me!

Michael enclosed this letter:

October 21, 2010

Mr. Huey,

In life we all have angels that watch over us, wherever we go and whatever we do. Also in life there are times where a stranger will pop into your life and change things, even just a little, sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse. This time, was for the better.

Today, I found something that belongs to your family and I did not believe that it was right to to leave it on that shelf in that store. It belongs in your home, in your hands. When you said that you do not have anything of your father’s, I choked up a little, and I knew I did the right thing. Sorry it took me so long to find it, but today, as you read this, you hold in your possession the very thing that your father took with him everywhere. It has his important identifications, and most of all, his pictures of what I am thinking are your kids. Here are the details about how this came about, I am sure you will want to tell this story to family, I found this at an old antique toy store in Melbourne, Florida on 10-21-2010. I contacted a Lynn Huey in Alabama, a female, and she said that she was married into the Huey family, but has no relation. Then I went to the white pages and found you, Jr., and had a good feeling that you are who I needed to speak with.

My father is my best friend and I know one day I will have to say goodbye to him. That will be a sad day. Today, you can say hello again to yours, through memories, and keep a part of him with you forever.

Thank you for not hanging up the phone today and God Bless you and your family.

Sincerely,

Michael M.

I will never know how my daddy’s billfold came to be in Melbourne, Florida, but I know how it came to Chattanooga, Tennessee.

Thank you Michael.
— Ed Huey, "Black Swank Trifold" from Project Keepsake
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My Revelation

I designed another graphic to communicate with the world yesterday. Savvy internet users and social media gurus call these graphics, "memes," derived from the words—mimicked and theme. Most memes are funny or edgy.  However, my meme is serious and inspirational, designed to help me publicize Project Keepsake.

Memes and dreams and themes...

Memes and dreams and themes...

I think that the meme captures the premise of my book—that everyone has a keepsake, and every keepsake has a story to tell.  This simple revelation prompted me to collect and publish stories about keepsakes, memories, histories, people, places, and thoughts. 

I rarely like photos of myself, but I love this photo, taken by my friend and fellow writer Misty Watson.  We met briefly at a small prayer garden adjacent to a church in Dalton to shoot a few photos for an article that appeared in the May/June issue of Dalton Magazine.  It was a perfect spring day—sunlight dancing around us, a light breeze on our faces, and the dogwoods were putting on a show screaming at passersby, "Look at us! Look at us!" Misty snapped shots of me holding various keepsakes from my collection.

This particular photo showcases five of my keepsakes.  The glass bluebird sun catcher is front and center, but I want to direct your attention to the other four treasures hidden in the photo—the dented, silver locket my Grandmother Jarriel gave me for Christmas forty years ago, the silver Celtic knot ring that I purchased from a street vendor in Glasgow, Scotland years ago, the platinum hoop earrings Gene gave me on our twentieth wedding anniversary, and the pearl engagement ring—an heirloom from my husband's family—I wear on my left ring finger.  Each of these keepsakes holds powerful memories. Each has its own story.

I know you have a keepsake—or two, or three, or more. I bet you have something that reminds you of a loved one, a significant moment, or a place you don't want to forget. From my perspective, mementoes, souvenirs, and heirlooms are all keepsakes.

Tell me about one of the sacred remnants of your life. Select a keepsake and tell me the story.  You can do it!